tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21503440095748307852024-03-14T02:26:37.013-07:00MirageAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17740652032016006581noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2150344009574830785.post-24930253350925162082014-07-17T11:22:00.000-07:002014-07-20T02:37:21.824-07:00On homosexuality....<div style="text-align: justify;">
Sometimes there are things that I really feel choked with if I don't write about them. Homosexuality topic was so much on facebook news lately that the need to say my opinion (not that many of you would care for it lol!) became eventually greater than the need to finish my everyday chores.</div>
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I really don't get it. Would anyone tell me frankly what is this fuss all about? Maybe I am super-stupid, but I genuinely can't see what is the difference between homo and hetero sexuality. Can somebody explain to me how is preferring apples to oranges, makes it better than preferring oranges to apples?! There should be a trick somewhere! And amazingly that trick must be so great that it not only disturbs the whole society out there, but is also enough to be involved in the civil law itself! In other words, preferring apples to oranges can make you a criminal! That should be a clear message to every parent to educate their kids so that they never mess us with the apples business. </div>
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I was never good in the religious books (not totally true, I did read a lot of Tao during my parent-less years). However, religious points of view could only explain the social paranoia but not the legal one, which is supposed to be civil. In the Greek times, homosexuality was totally normal, sometimes even preferred to the hetero type. So now we are supposed to be moving forward or backward in this anti-homo attitude of our species? I must have missed the point in history, when homosexuality was proven wrong! But no matter how much I read (not that much really!) I truly can't find that proof. </div>
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I try to put aside my firm belief that every woman and man has some degree of homosexuality in her/him, and imagine why would I actually care if someone around me is homosexual? Does it make my life any different? Why should it matter to anyone at all? Let alone the Government! </div>
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But the society becomes obsessed with homosexuality to a degree that the label "abnormal" is not enough for it, it actually becomes illegal. Personally, it amazes me how the same "rightful" society is totally cool with all the inequality on women and other stone-age sides of the Lebanese law! So, you actually start to wonder about the real intentions of a society, which closes its eyes on barbaric injustice and makes itself busy persecuting personal freedom of choice. </div>
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Anonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17740652032016006581noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2150344009574830785.post-1586063793638204702013-05-24T11:24:00.001-07:002013-05-25T02:23:00.616-07:00My journey home...<br />
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I used to be a travel girl. The best feeling I could ever
imagine was to be on the road. It didn’t much matter where I was going, as that
I was going somewhere and that somewhere should be as further from home as
possible. Could it be that my feelings of unbelongness rooted in my unstable family, or maybe I got
used to escape from home, the place of never-ending problems….I don’t know. But
the most important thing that I understood later is that it became part of my
personality only because of the life I was having, and not because of some
genetic modification imprinted into my chromosomes. </div>
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Leaving home at the age of sixteen, made me realize how much
joy and relief I could experience by simply dissociating myself from my family.
Total freedom. Kind of food, lack of proper sleep, lack of comfortable living
conditions, all that didn’t matter as long as no one cared for where I was or
what I was doing. Not that my parents ever limited my freedom of choice, but
there was constant emotional stress, caused mostly by my mom’s depressive
disorder, that made our home unbearable at times. Free from her mood swings,
hysterias, depression parties, I felt myself a totally different person. A
person who was capable of enjoying life around him, detached from the emotional
state at home. </div>
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My home-free life continued into the university years.
Home-sickness was the feeling unknown to me, which distinguished me from most
of my dormitory friends. I pitied them for being so family-dependant, they
pitied me for being so emotionally remote from my family. To me, however, I was
not emotionally remote enough. My parents would constantly call me, bombarding
me with their problems. They rarely cared or listened to my problems (of which
they knew so little), but always expected from me to help them in whatever way
I could. The burden of being the only one responsible for their health and
well-being got so heavy at times, that I remember repeatedly wishing I had no
family at all. I knew I had to escape further, until one day it finally happened:
I got a scholarship to Japan!</div>
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To me it was a dream come true. People would look at me as
if I was telling them I was going to Mars; to some it was totally unrealistic.
How could they know that the mere idea of being on the other part of the globe appeared
to me nearly orgasmic. Last months passed quickly between packing and finishing
my thesis and finally I was on the plane on the long-awaited journey to
Hakkaido (the northen Japanese island). Jumping on the half-empty plane from
one window to the other, picturing the beautiful scenes, I saw a young guy,
sitting by the emergency door, crying. Several people gathered around him, to
calm him down. At first I thought that he was afraid of the flight, but then a
girl explained to me that he felt very home-sick. Obviously I couldn’t relate.
We were approaching Hokkaido, roaming over the ocean and suddenly I realized
that I WAS on the other part of the globe already! I was on the island as
remote as it can get from home! It was hard to believe that my state of
euphoria and that poor guy’s tears were both caused by the same fact! <br />
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My feeling of homelessness never bothered me as long as I
was all by myself. I could pack and go as far as my finances would allow.
Seeing new places, meeting new people all seemed to be natural part of my life
wherever I happened to be. And as naturally as it could be, there emerged a new
friend walking with me haunting my dreams: a love of my life. At first, he was
just a dream that accompanied me on my life path, coloring my days and
shortening my nights. Then he became more and more real, intervened more and
more into my life; my dreams became our dreams and my future became our future.
Finally, I could no longer stand our separate names and started longing for
marriage. Why? What did marriage mean to me at that time? Tying a person by his
hands and legs, so that he can belong to me forever? So I could drag him behind
me across the globe, hoping that he wouldn’t resist much. He did resist
sometimes of course and we would fight over something I thought was my
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Sadly my homelessness continued into my motherhood. We moved
from place to place, changing houses, neighbors, countries….in a constant
search of some perfect emotional state. Houses didn’t mean anything to me more that
hips of cement blocks or stones, neighbors were accident acquaintances,
countries were fields that we could roam. We packed, unpacked, counted miles of
tiredness and throw ups, never actually arriving anywhere we could rest. There
was something totally wrong with our family. It lacked a soul, where one could
find peace and comfort. It lacked a home……</div>
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A home….but that was exactly what I was trying to escape
from all my life! How could I make it if the only home I’ve known was a sad
place of constant depression? How could
I create something I never lived or experienced? Neither was I raised in one,
nor did I learn how to make one in my countless years of study. Suddenly, to my
horror, I realized that the whole idea of building a home was not merely strange
to me; it was something that I resisted with my whole being. I didn’t want a
home; I was so used to living without it that having it was appearing totally
boring and dreadful. I was born to be free, I told myself, I would never need a
home, and I don’t want my kids to get attached to something that could vanish
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No matter how fun at times, our scattered life
began to wear me. We were totally unprepared for any breakdown that could
happen with three small kids constantly on the road. There was no source of
well-being in case some sickness strikes. There was no source of
self-fulfillment, no warmth of a family. Until one morning, I finally realized
that I should invest energy into something that would provide us with energy
when we need it. That something was exactly that same hazy, unknown place that
I dreaded so much; that something was a home…..</div>
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A home…I would never imagine that it gives you back much
more than you invest! I decided to step on my fear and built it for my family,
but I never thought I would actually build it for myself! Without even
realizing, I had built it for my lost, homeless me, who many years back
searched for it in vain… It was a place where I could dream, without fear of
being rejected or ridiculed. It was a place where my soul belonged forever
staying free…..</div>
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